Are you thinking of starting something new, or trying out a new career?
Do you fail to start trying, because you are afraid of failure?
Are you the sole provider for your family, and is that holding you back?
When you start your journey to achieve a new goal, you will at some point have to confront and conquer your anxieties and fears.
Here we provide the first step to overcome the fear of starting something new.
Fear is a natural part of life. It’s an emotion that we all have.
Unfortunately, most of us allow fear to control our lives, serving to paralyze our potential to act and realize our dreams.
Successful people, on the other hand, experience the same fears as the rest of us. But this fear never stops them from going out and getting what they want.
They never let their fears hold them back. Instead, they use it as a tool to grow; to move beyond boundaries and into new places in their life.
If you want to start something new, or achieve what you want in life, then facing your fear and acting on it is an extremely important quality.
Give yourself what you want for others
We all encourage those we love to try new things, live life with an open heart, and embrace change.
We persuade our children to try new things by saying things like: “How will you know if you don’t try it”.
When the children want to try a sport or an instrument and frustration starts to take over, we tell them that it takes time and consistency to become good at something.
But many people don’t follow their own advice. It’s the all too common “do as I say not as I do” lifestyle.
Beginning a new career path can almost seem forbidden, especially if you are a bit older, or if you have a family that depends on you. You cloud yourself with thoughts of “It’s too late for me, my time has passed” or, “what if it doesn’t work”, “what if I’m not good at it,” and other unjust reasons that you’re likely to fail.
Don’t be that person that begins all your stories with “I always wanted to…,”, “I thought I would’ve been great at…”, or “I could have…”.
Your time is right now!
Do not let age or situation be anything more than assets of your experience. The best years of your life can be at any age. The only expectations and time frames are those that we place on ourselves.
Fear of trying
So many get crippled by a fear of new things. Whether it’s becoming successful, not being good enough, and/or disappointing others and themselves. These people tend to stay in their cosy bubble.
Did you know that human beings are born with only two fears (innate fears); that is the fear of falling and the fear of loud sounds? The rest of our fears are those that are learned.
How to start something new
Your desire of starting a new path, or a new career is a desire for more life.
Your dreams, aspirations, and visions of your life are yours and yours alone. Those ideas that continue to resurface in your mind do so because there’s no one else in this world that can make those dreams come true.
Success requires change
Even though change is one of the few constants that life provides us many people are made extremely uncomfortable by the mere mention of it.
First, know that for your experience to be different, that things will have to change.
The more you try, the more chance there is for you to succeed.
You can not continue to do the same thing and expect different results.
When change requires faith in the unknown and unseen it can be terrifying. When change forces you to face such questions as “How will I pay all of my expenses and also take care of my family?” fears can quickly mount against you… if you allow them to.
The road to success is paved with challenges and risks, and you must be willing to step outside your comfort zone. So, to succeed on your new journey, you must be willing to regularly extend outside your comfort zone.
Do what you love
Get clear on what it is that you want to do, and be passionate about whatever it may be. You’ll need a strong desire for any new career you seek.
Success is doing what you want and being happy doing it. If you’re always doing what you love then your passion will drive you toward advancement in that area.
Specialize in your new career
No matter what new career you decide on, it’s extremely important that you do your best to acquire all the information that is available in that field. Make an effort to continually develop more knowledge about it, as your expertise will allow you to be of the best service to others.
You’ll go beyond providing just a routine service to someone else, you’ll be able to add value to your clients.
This brings us to our next objective.
Do something that benefits others
You can do anything you want.
You can drive yourself with a desire that’s only aimed at benefiting yourself; after all many before you have done it. Many have gotten rich by selling fraudulent stocks, fudging numbers, and essentially stealing from others. But when you take from another you are taking from yourself.
In this mindset of “Me-Only”, you are operating from a place of lack and restriction. By doing so it’s just a matter of time before these thoughts and actions are manifested in your body, relationships, or other affairs. Remember that what you think about you create.
Starting a new career that serves, and is of benefit to others, provides you with a much more peaceful mind.
Believe in yourself
Having faith in yourself and your vision is one of the hardest things to do. But once it’s done, it’s one of the most beneficial practices for you and your success.
You have to have faith in yourself and your desire.
You are so much more than enough, you are amazing in limitless ways and the world wants you to succeed. When you’re starting a new path or getting into a new career you’re letting your light shine and when you do that you give other people the nudge and the confidence to do the same; thus inspiring your children, grandchildren, spouse, siblings, parents, co-workers, and friends to expand within their own lives.
Keep the past in the past
Remember that whatever has happened in the past, does not direct your future. Unless you allow it to.
So, keep moving in the direction of your dreams.
It makes no difference what you’ve done or haven’t done or how far you’ve climbed on any corporate, economic, or financial ladder. In every moment of every day, we each have a brand new opportunity to do whatever it is that we so desire. The past is gone and you need not give it any more of your attention.
Stay away from negative
While you’re exploring something new, it’s best to avoid sharing it with anyone who may not appreciate your ideas.
This time in your life makes you both empowered, but at the same time vulnerable. Any negativity can easily latch onto the insecurities you’re already trying to overcome and risks bringing you down.
So, are you still worried about starting something new?
Let’s quickly have a look at some methods to help you overcome your fears
4 methods to overcome your fears
- Turn negative ideas into positive ones
A great way to remove fear is to create an image in your mind of something that scares you and then replace it with a more positive image.
For example, if you have a fear of public speaking, replace an image of you standing nervously in front of an audience, stumbling over your words, with one of you speaking clearly and confidently in a large auditorium. Picture the audience rising to their feet to give you a standing ovation right at the end.
- Remember your victories
When you do something for the first time you’re inevitably going to feel a little scared. That’s normal, and part of learning and growing.
Think back to the times when have you triumphed when faced with the unknown.
When you first jumped in at the deep end of the swimming pool? The first time you asked someone out on a date?
These were all seemingly insurmountable fears at the time, but once you did it, think back on how good you felt and how quickly those fears disappeared.
- Reduce risk
If you have a fear that is so big it paralyses you, then try to minimise the risks in some way.
If you can, try and break the fear into smaller bite-size challenges and build up from there. This creates a snowball effect and encourages you to take a little more risk.
For example, if you’re learning a new sport such as climbing, then start to develop your skills on indoor climbing walls. Once you master the skills you need to learn, you can then move through your fears by tackling the challenges of outdoor climbing.
- Push forward with momentum
When you overcome a fear you’ll be amazed at the amount of momentum this creates.
With success comes belief and confidence.
Use this newfound confidence to overcome more of the fears that are holding you back. Once these fears have disappeared, your possibilities in life will endless.
To conquer you fears you first have to conquer your mind. Show fortitude and strength in the face of fear and your life will be filled with fortune and opportunity.
Your fears are what are stopping you from reaching your true potential and most desired goals.
Learn to embrace the challenges of life; conquer your fears and finally start enjoying a richer, exciting more rewarding existence.